Sunday, 22 March 2015

Man's Best Friend!


             Today what I am going to write about is a topic very close to my heart and I request and seek help and views from each one of my readers to help me with this dilemma or rather the helplessness that I have been feeling after these chain of sequences. It is not about a person or a situation. Nor does this require a very philosophical thinking. Rather this is a situation that needs practical thoughts and practical solutions.



               It so happened that, as I was returning home after a long gap of twelve years staying away from home, I had developed this new found love and adoration for the puppies. I would look at the magazines and photographs of some cute glamorous dogs looking at you with their puppy eyes, and I fancied owning and raising a puppy. My mother was quite adamant to not pet an animal if you can’t take full responsibility for it. Since I was still doing my fellowship, taking full-time care of the puppy and training it was not feasible for me. Hence I gave up the idea. One fine day while I was just strolling in our colony lanes, I discovered that a bitch who lived in our society had given birth to 5 beautiful puppies. I, immediately formed a bond with them. I knew my mom would not let all five of them in the house, but I did know that she has a heart of gold and would never deny any of them any help and food. I thought of gradually introducing the puppies to my mom. It wasn't even a week before feeding the pups and playing with them was like a routine and the most stress busting activity of the day. They had also started recognizing me by my whistle. The colony had become their home, so they would sleep opposite to our house, keep playing in the nearby lanes and come when we called (rather whistled) for them. It was a place where they were safe (or that is what I thought) until one early chilly morning.



               It was quite an early morning, the air was still misty and foggy. I went to feed these babies and I saw that all five of them were cuddled up in a small one foot sized shallow trench. I recognized them by their color. I had to wake them up, to remind them to drink milk. They hesitantly opened their cute little furry lids, winced and realized that it was time for breakfast. Then they stretched their cute little paws and one by one got up, stepping on one another came out of the trench and started lapping up the warm milk to their contentment. However one of them, the black one, the one, who actually loved milk and after being fed would be the only one to climb up my lap and give me a kiss each and everyday as if saying thank you, didn't get up. At first I thought may be she is just sleepy, but then I realized that she is trying to peep out of the trench but isn't able to get up. I picked her up in my arms and placed her close to the bowl of milk and she started licking too. I then realized that her sitting posture was a little different than the others. I took her in my arms and took her to my mother to ask her what was wrong with her. She saw her and said, both her rear limbs look paralyzed. I was shocked and devastated. I didn't know what to do. I made her sit in our wash area and asked my mom and dad if they could take her to a vet. They very happily did so (I told you, they have a heart of gold). I returned from work only to find that the vet told that she probably had got hit by some vehicle and her spine was broken causing her to have paraplegia. She  would never be able to move her rear limbs at all and worst still, she had also lost control over her bowel and bladder. We tried to nurse her the most that we could. A very nice lady who lived next door, who knew a lot about raising dogs was also involved and would help a lot. We tried giving her bath with antiseptic, making her wear puppy diapers but since there was no bowel/bladder control, she used to be soiled all the time. Then she had learnt to drag herself around to feed herself and play with other puppies which made her problems worse and she started getting sores and infection. Within a matter of 8-10 days she got very very sick and was admitted but although real fighter that she was, she finally succumbed to the disability that was gifted to her by a stupid reckless and irresponsible motorist. Somehow as we always do, in 4-5 days after feeling bad and being sad, we recovered from this loss.



             A few more days after this incident, I again found another one, the brown one, hurt. I was so so angry that I could have abused the motorist if I saw him/her. Still trying to protect him and after being so scared from the paralyzed puppy ordeal, we got him to the hospital immediately. So he was taken away by these people and was apparently treated there. The coming weekend, me being very attached to them decided to visit the hospital with my mom. This hospital that I am talking about is actually a charitable organisation which treats the sick animals with veterinarian doctors and care-takers offering help. They are supposed to feed them and keep them clean and help them heal. We found him in between the animals cramped up in a very stinky, small place. Dogs of various sizes and diseases were kept in a small, cramped up, tiled creche/ kennel which had thick iron rod door. Each kennel was very dirty with dog poo all around on the floor and a bowl kept for each dog with rotting food inside it. The dogs in the whole place were wailing or barking.The moment, I spotted my puppy, I whistled to him and he recognized me instantly and limped up to me and rested his head on my lap. I kept patting his head and mumbling “Its okay my baby”. I tried to feed him but he was so depressed or shocked with the environment that he wouldn't eat. I couldn't help but notice that he had become much more weaker and sad. We inquired about his eating habits and asked them to vaccinate him and release him soon. So now back home, we were left with 3 puppies.



 Few uneventful days later on another evening,I found that yet another one had being hit by a car. I tried to stop the car driver to give him a piece of my mind but he fled away. He was treated with some injections and healed leaving behind a slight limp. So again we were left with three of them, but one injured.

                Things were pretty stable for a while but then one fine morning,  when I went to call them for food, the puppies were hiding behind the cars and trying the reach me. Before they could reach me, the bigger dog caught one of them by his neck and banged it hard on the cement ground and kept doing it repeatedly. He did it so ferociously that the poor puppy was hurt very badly and wailed and limped away. I was so scared at this sight of cruelty that I just froze there and started trembling. My dad heard this commotion and had to come and shoo the bigger dog away. That night the whole night the poor puppy went through the same cruelty innumerous number of times, and I kept hearing his painful shrieks, trying once or twice to save him but failed. In the morning when we woke up and my mom opened the front gate door and the poor injured and blood bathed puppy and the other two ran and hid inside our home seeking for some safe place. All the three of them were scared to death and would not even eat or drink. My parents agreed to let them stay in the house until they were safe from the hounds outside. I called the municipal office innumerable number of times to request them to catch the bigger dog who was bullying these kids, but all I got was ‘this is not our job’, please contact the other department, etc. Different empty excuses but no results. That’s how Indian Municipal system works.



           With each of these tragic events that happened to these puppies, I was hurt very badly and emotionally drained each and every time. I was forced to think that what is the life of a stray dog in India. They actually go through so much of struggle each and everyday and even if they somehow manage to survive all these adversities and grow into dogs, they would be shoo-ed away, or hit by a reckless driver or get caught by some dog-snatchers or killed. They would lead a life without being loved, cared or respected.

           With my personal experience I have realized that dogs are very intelligent creatures. They have a unique way of learning which is called conditioned reflexes by which they can learn almost everything that you want to teach them. As we know that a tiny spark can lead to a fire, these tragic episodes lit a fire of ideas in my mind. I envisioned a place for all stray puppies who are born on the streets and there is no one to adopt them or keep them safe (especially in the city). They can be taken to this so called ‘School for Puppies’. Here, these puppies can be fed, taken care of and according to their developmental milestones, age-wise trained. They can be free to roam about, but at the same time should be taught discipline (which they can be trained to have). They could have a in-house veterinarian doctor who would look after the sick ones with a special care until they get better. Once these dogs are adults and have learnt some special skills, they can be given to the places where they would be useful and would also be taken care of and most importantly respected and loved. They can be taught to sniff weapons and risky goods and be given away to security departments like airports, hotels etc. They could be given away to police forces for various defense purposes. They could be useful to help blind people get around and walk on as well as cross roads. They could be placed as watch-dogs at old-age homes. In this way, not only would they be taken care of but also would be able to lead a very respectable and a loved life with a purpose.

           This thought is just raw, possibly impractical, too ambitious but it surely could do much better with some polishing. And your suggestions would make it shine and will keep inspiring and encouraging me to do something actually worthwhile for these best-friends of humans.       

Sunday, 15 March 2015

Stand Still...

           
    This week passed in a wink. Before I realized it, the whole week just got over. I was fumbling to look for inspiration for my blog this Sunday but it felt like it just passed away in a blink and I had nothing at all to write about. It was a very stressful week. I had no time to think or my mind had no material to process and probably that’s why I feel the lack of inspiration.

'Chaos of the Urban mind' by Pedro Julian

              So when I actually sat down to write, I started looking for an answer to the question, what is it in life that inspires us? Is it our work, is it some person,or is it some incident? For me it is the time when your mind is actually at a rest mode and in the capability to think. Our lives are so full of things to do these days, so many responsibilities to attend to, so many distractions, so many other expectations to fulfill and so many societal pressures. Its like our life is full of chaos and we are constantly trying to race against time. The moment that we wake up in the morning we start planning our day, rush to work, travel on traffic laden streets, work entire day, come back home from a heavy traffic, attend to our duties as a family member and  finally doing some duty towards your body, we go off to sleep. Work these days is like a pressure cooker too. There are so many levels at which you may just keep dragging yourself to keep proving your worth. The temperament of the people working with you and around you also affects your work. I know, that at my work place if the boss is grumpy and for some reason is angry at the employee(including me sometimes), the whole day of the person goes wrong and he/she keeps making mistakes. Its not that the person is incompetent or doesn't know their jobs, its just that the stress or the pressure of performing is making them falter at each and every step of theirs. Its like getting caught in a whirlpool of stress. So as a consequence, admist all this, it is the mind that keeps paying the taxes and fails to get its due and thus the efficacy and the capability to produce good thoughts and draw inspiration from things, doing effective work and being productive keeps getting compromised. 

Finding Peace- by Jessica Joy

             I had read in a magazine a very long time back which made an impression on my mind that the real secret of living is to find peace within the chaos. One may find peace in any way that helps them do it. Some people meditate (although I am not too great at meditating) some may choose to paint, or go for a walk or just sit by the window with a cup of tea and relax or sometimes just breathe. It is important for us to just stand still, take a breath, and look at the situation from above without getting involved in it. It is important for each one of us to just have a different perspective. And doing that will actually give you some inspiration, to think better and to do good. It gives you some insight into yourself and the world around you. It unclutters your mind and shows it a path that it may be looking for since a long time. 
          Chaos (stress) makes you work at a spinal level which means that you are actually not making any use of your intellectual abilities to deal with a situation. Well if we are doing that then there is no real difference between us and the primates, is there? We as humans have been evolved to have the capability of using our brains and our minds to our advantage. I had seen an episode of a famous cooking show on TV where the contestant was very flustered and was almost about to fail in the pressure test and the guest judge who was actually the one who presented the challenge, saw her, he went upto her and held her hand and just said, “Take a minute, and just breathe. Now look at your bench and visualize the process and breathe again. Now start working. And you will realize that the only thing that was wrong was that you forgot to breathe.” And the lady actually did get through the competition in the end. (Show: Masterchef Australia, Season 7, Episode 35- Pressure test by Vikas Khanna)

Depth of stillness vs stormy turmoil

             Life is unpredictable and will bring about many different emotions and mind states that can be challenging and difficult, even unbearable at times. But beneath all the dramas, distractions and problems there is a still and calm place you can rest in. If, amidst the turmoil, you can find just one moment of peace in each day, then your whole life will become more joyful. Like the water in a lake, when your mind is calm you can see the depths below, but when your mind is disturbed it is easy to get caught up in the waves. If circumstances cannot be changed then you can change your attitude toward them. You may not be able to control the wind but you can adjust your sails.

    Thus I realized a very important lesson in life. Whenever in chaos just Stand Still, breathe, and see the situation that you are in from above, and look at a bigger perspective and I m sure you will definitely find a way.

Sunday, 8 March 2015

WOMEN’S DAY!


                    On this occasion of International Women’s Day, I wish to each and every wonderful woman in the world who makes change in their own unique way to the world more power and more strength.


“Woman is the companion of man gifted with equal mental capacity,
If by strength is meant moral power, woman is immeasurably a man’s superior
If non-violence is the law of our being, then the future is with Women”
                                                                                                                                    -Mahatma Gandhi

                   Today, being a lazy Sunday morning I woke up to an innumerous number of Happy Women’s Day messages all over the social media including twitter, facebook, whatsapp, instagram, etc. Being over enthusiastic with all these messages I too posted my share of wishes on such medium of self-expression. Then I got up and went to the kitchen for my breakfast and saw my mother working in the kitchen, and I thought to myself, what can I do to make this woman’s day special for the most special woman in my life. I was thinking this with a mug of tea and freshly baked Indian bread made of millet flour known as 'Bajra ka rotla' with homemade white butter that mom had made for our breakfast. I was reading the newspaper while having the breakfast and the first page was about the Woman’s Day and about the courageous women and how they have taken over in each and every field of occupation right from being a valiant police officer to driving a truck. I was loathing in all this woman’s day frenzy and was somehow for no reason feeling proud of being a woman. Then I turned over the page and on the very second page was a very disturbing news which said that a 28 year old man shoved and iron rod in the private parts of a liitle 6 year old girl, which resulted in the rupture of the girl’s uterus. There was also yet another article about the documentary of the ghorish rapists about the Nirbhaya rape incident and how shamelessly and remorselessly it has been described to be a woman’s fault in the ‘Rape’. And with a thud I fell to the ground of harsh reality from floating in the artificial bubble created by this Woman’s Day frenzy. And I thought to myself is this really a Woman’s World or why are we really celebrating a Woman’s Day or what does a woman’s day really mean?



            I did a little research on the internet (it is a very easy means of information today), and google opened up a number of pages for me which described the history of how a woman’s day came into existence. I would like to share the information with my readers so that instead of the day being about sending forward messages and images on the social media, we would make an attempt to recognise the importance and crux behind devoting a Day to celebrate “Womanhood”. It all started in 1909, New York city where on 28th February ‘Women’s Day Observance’ was held by Socialist Party of America in honor of the strike held by International Ladies Garment Work Union, fighting for the working rights of women in the factories. The next year, 1910, it was celebrated to honour the movement for women's rights and to build support for achieving universal suffrage for women, which received a unanimous support from 17 countries. Each year there was a different objective raised by the activists in various countries for basic rights like right to work, discrimination at work place, right to vote etc. however a fixed day was never fixed until then. In 1975, which was called the International Woman’s Year, United Nations (a world-based organisation formed after World War II in 1945 to address to various global issues including women's rights) declared the day 8th of March as International Woman’s Day. Since then the United Nations give various different themes on each Woman’s Day to address and throw light on various hardships that women face in day-to-day life. Some of the remarkable themes are-

Celebrating the Past, Planning for Future- 1996
Women and Peace, Managing Conflicts – 2001
Women in Decision Making- 2006
Investing in Women and Girls- 2008
Women and Men United to End Violence Against Women and Girls- 2009
 Equal Rights, Equal Opportunities: Progress for All- 2010
Equal Access to Education, Training, and Science and Technology: Pathway to Decent Work for Women- 2011
 Empower Rural Women, End Poverty and Hunger- 2012
 A Promise is a Promise: Time for Action to End Violence Against Women- 2013
 Equality for Women is Progress for All- 2014
EMPOWERING WOMEN, EMPOWERING HUMANITY: PICTURE IT! #MakeItHappen-2015


                   
                In different countries it is celebrated in different ways including men giving flowers or gifts to the women who matter in their life and the women just feeling special and being pampered by the loved ones. It is sweet and it is a good way to celebrate but is that all to a Woman’ Day? I have read a few lewd messages and jokes on the media saying that all days are women’s days etc. Yes for a few lucky ones like us who have been living in the urban and civilized societies it may be the truth, but what we do have to realize that it is more than just a day to fill up your in-boxes with messages. It is a movement to appreciate the efforts taken by the courageous women in past which has made our lives so much rosy and comfortable that we are able to live a free and a fulfilling life. It is also an opportunity to realize how much difficult it is for the majority of women staying all over the world still and how hundreds of them are still bound in the shackles of the society norms and are struggling in their day to day lives. It is a day to read about the revolutionary work done by some great women in the world, like Sarojini Naidu, Mother Teressa, Malala Yousafzai, Alice Walker, etc.


             It is also an occasion to celebrate the women in our own homes, our grandmothers, our mothers, our elder sisters etc who all in some or the other way must have contributed in changing pre-instilled gender biased thoughts of the men. It is also an occasion to thank the men in our lives and otherwise who give us an opportunity to grow and blossom and also give us strength to do more than the rest of the still struggling women can do. It is important as a Woman to realize your own worth and the potential untapped power inside yourself. That is what the Woman’s Day 2015 is all about-  EMPOWERING YOURSELF (WOMEN) AND EMPOWERING HUMANITY. So girls, oops, Women, lets realize the worth of the day, the revolution that has led to this day being a special one and let’s celebrate it. It’s time to MAKE IT HAPPEN   


The information of the history of Women’s Day has been sourced from
www.un.org

http://en.wikipedia.org